“Find inner peace“. This affirmation has been stuck in my head for years. I believed that if I said it enough times that it would automatically show up. However, that didn’t happen because simply saying it isn’t enough.
You have to envision what inner peace is. I’ll admit that at first I didn’t know what that looked like for me. I would visualize what others defined inner peace as or what I thought it should look like for me but I couldn’t obtain it because I didn’t know what my definition of inner peace was.
Everyone is different. Some people are at peace when things are calm and still. Others when things are busy and bustling. I had to do some real soul searching to find out what really makes me feel at peace. What I found was surprising.
I wanted a calm, grounded sense of peace. However due to years of trauma and chaos, my default state was actually at peace in just that. I didn’t want this of course. It’s just how I had been programed by the world around me since childhood.
Now that I am an adult, I realize that even though it’s a comfort zone of some sorts, it’s not healthy and far from comfortable. Noticing this was the first crucial step to finding inner peace. Now that I had a definition of what peace was for me, I could then tailor it to what I wanted it to be.
If you are someone who has also had trouble finding inner peace, stop listening to the gurus and start learning about and listening too yourself. Your can’t find your peace based off of someone else’s definition. Sure, you can always learn from others but mold their advice to suit you. Try to remember there is no “quick fix” although you can experience some instant relief. This is a process and it takes time but it is well worth it.